Choices and Suggestions for Moving On

Ask for help, get coaching.

Keep a private journal of your feelings and thoughts.

Create your own divorce support group, or join one.

In spite of the world's belief that we need a mate to be happy, say," I will work on becoming whole before I choose another significant other or partner."

Be in an inquiry, looking to see what is wanted and needed and missing, and then be willing to produce/provide that.

Be willing to make amends when appropriate.

Go through an anger process until the anger disappears. This could result in serenity, release, and improved health. Some suggestions that might be effective:

• Get therapeutic assistance.

• Dance to wild, loud music.

• Pound a pillow.

• Scream in a closed car.

Really see that your source of happiness is not within others, but within yourself.

Stop making your former mate wrong ... for your sake, for his/her sake and for the children's sake.

Let go of blaming and complaining. They don't move the stars.

Want what is best for your former partner; the possibility for friendship.