THE CEREMONY

Do a cleansing ritual of the space when all are present and all is in place. You can do this with a sage smudge stick, a holy water spray, incense, a healing oil, aroma spray, whatever is preferred.

As you are cleansing the space say aloud:

"I am cleansing this old space of old hurts and past chaos, forgiving the broken vows and creating a new space for new possibilities and opportunities.

Let the Healing begin.

And So It Is. Thank you God!

We are gathered here today in the spirit of acceptance, love and forgiveness to say farewell to a marriage that could no longer continue. And to welcome a new day with renewed commitments for growth and fulfillment."

Ask the former mates to say what they want to say to one another. Then ask each of the children to do the same.

Then say:

"Dear God, we want to acknowledge to you and to one another the gratitude that we feel in our hearts today for this relationship that created these beautiful children. We now deeply and completely bless the past. We bless the lessons learned. We bless one another. We bless this divorce. We bless our futures and our children's futures."

Then have the former husband take his former wife's hands and say aloud to her:

"I am putting your hands in God's hands. I now let you go to God, to Trust, to Love. I wish you a full, healthy and happy life."

Have the former wife do the same.

"I am putting your hands in God's hands. I now let you go to God, to Trust, to Love. I wish you a full, healthy and happy life."

Then say:

"We have concluded this Divorce Blessing Ceremony and I would like you both to have this symbol to remind you of the words spoken here today and your agreement to be in the mending process. Then hold hands and all say a prayer of their choice aloud. Amen!

"Congratulations!"

Have participants, yourself and witnesses sign the Divorce Blessing Ceremony Certificates and give one to each participant, perhaps keeping a copy for your records.

The color of a Divorce Ceremony is turquoise. Shortly after I saw this I was told that recently the color turquoise had been seen in a rainbow in Hawaii. Your symbolic gifts to the participants could be turquoise stones in small velvet sacks, or rings of turquoise representing a mended Broken Circle. Your choice of something appropriate will be perfect. The participants forming a circle for the Ceremony sounds correct.

God's Blessings.